Recently, a mother left a message saying that her children are in the third grade, and they don’t like reading all the time. They always don’t pay attention in class. I don’t know what to do.
Primary school children, there are many reasons for the above phenomenon. A common reason is watching too much TV, especially cartoons and some low-quality children’s entertainment programs. In this regard, many parents may not take it seriously: does watching TV really have such an impact?
Children love watching TV when they are young. They are easy to be “fools”!
According to the research data, the brain wave of people watching TV is very close to that of sleeping. Sitting in front of the TV, the brain doesn’t need to respond to any problems actively, and the body is also in a state of relaxation, which is very harmful to the brain and the young children whose body is in the development period.
Compared with the children who often read, the children who often watch TV before school age have significant differences in intelligence.
Because early childhood is the best opportunity for intellectual enlightenment, and intellectual development needs constant information stimulation. TV is a passive and life oriented activity. Children can learn something from TV, but compared with reading, it has little intellectual stimulation effect on children, so the effect of intellectual enlightenment is very small. To enlighten with TV without paying attention to reading is to pick up sesame and lose watermelon.
There is also the problem of habits. Children spend a long time in front of TV when they are young. It’s easy to form a state of being at a loss when they leave TV. Anything that needs to pay will and effort is difficult for them and they are not interested in it. This kind of inertia will transfer to learning, which makes him be discouraged from learning activities that need active consciousness and will.
Generally speaking, we won’t stop Yuanyuan from doing anything he wants, but we used to control her strictly in watching TV,.
But this “control” was never detected by her, because we basically didn’t say “don’t watch TV” to Yuanyuan, and didn’t stipulate that she could only watch a few hours of TV every day, let alone shut down the TV by force. So as far as her personal experience is concerned, I don’t think the parents have been in charge of her. On the contrary, some of our actions seem to be connivance.
For example, when she was in primary school, the TV series “Huanzhugege” was popular for a while. I seldom watch TV series at home. I think it’s a waste of time. This concept has influenced Yuanyuan since she was a child. Generally, she would not take the initiative to watch a series. We didn’t know when “Huanzhugege” was first broadcasted. She heard from her classmates that it was very good-looking, so she came back to find the program. She was attracted by it when she saw it. The main character in it, little swallow, fascinated her.
There are three episodes of TV plays every night, from 7:30 to 10:00. This time was originally the time to write homework, practice erhu and read novels. According to her habit, she goes home to do homework first, then practice erhu, then read novels or play, and go to bed at 9:30. Now, when the TV play starts, she usually just finished her homework. When the TV play is finished and it’s past her normal sleep time, erhu can’t be practiced and there’s no time to read novels.
It’s ok if she doesn’t read the novel for the time being. She has just learned erhu and has to practice every day. I was a little worried, at this time it was natural to suggest that she watch less TV series every day. But this idea was denied immediately. She likes watching it so much. The plot is closely linked. She can’t wait until tomorrow after watching it today. How can she bear to watch one episode less every day. Besides, I have the heart to force her to watch less episodes. She can’t have the heart to practice erhu at that time. How can she practice without the heart?
In fact, Yuanyuan himself is worried. When she watched TV, she was very intoxicated. When she finished watching TV, she found that there was no time to practice erhu, and she was also very guilty. But with her willpower at that time, she couldn’t take the initiative to ask for one less episode.
I began to think about a solution.
After deliberation, Yuanyuan and I discussed whether we could practice erhu first and then do homework later. That is to say, before the start of the TV play, practice erhu. After the practice, the TV play is about to open, and then watch TV while doing homework – my suggestion is crazy in many people’s eyes. How can we encourage children to watch TV while doing homework? What children are most afraid of is that they don’t pay attention to learning. They should develop a good learning attitude from childhood.
I think so: in fact, primary school students’ homework is mostly physical work. They don’t need to use much brain power and deep thinking when completing their homework. Children can complete their homework only by mobilizing a part of their attention; and watching TV itself is a task that can be completed without any effort. Both homework and watching TV are relatively simple and should be able to be done at the same time. It’s one mind, two uses, but it doesn’t affect anything. If there are some influences, they are not serious. The overall balance is a good way.
Yuanyuan listens to my advice and is very willing to do so, so that she can finish the two most important tasks of homework and erhu practice without delaying watching TV. Due to the trust of the parents, the child is not uncomfortable in any way. She did coordinate these things very well. Practice erhu before TV play, and then do homework while watching TV.
In fact, in the process of TV play, Yuanyuan always forgot to write her homework because she was too involved in watching it, but she would seize the time to write some as soon as she inserted an advertisement or a song at the beginning and end of the film. As a result, the speed of her homework has increased significantly. At the same time, she also knows how to use school time better. For the convenience of watching TV at home in the evening, she tried to make use of all kinds of scattered time in school. After she got home, she could finish some homework.
About a few months or a year later, the TV station began to broadcast the second part of “Huanzhugege”, and Yuanyuan began a “carnival period” of watching TV. I can’t remember how she arranged the specific time after going home every day, because I don’t need to interfere or ask about these things. I just remember that she did not watch one episode of the TV play, wrote all the homework that should be written, practiced erhu every day, and bought all the “Huanzhugege” books matching the script. It seems that there are one or twenty of them. Before the end of the TV play, all these books have been read.
Some parents may be worried to say that my child is not obedient. If I let go of it like this, he will be totally unable to control himself. He will always watch TV while doing his homework, and watch one after another, which will definitely affect his academic performance.
I understand the concerns of these parents. The children in these families seem to be very ignorant and unconscious. What I want to say to these parents is not to look at one thing and one phenomenon in isolation. There are many reasons for the formation of children’s “unconsciousness”, which mostly reflects the long-standing educational problems in the family. The most important thing is that when encountering something, the parents are full of power style in the way of dealing with it. They don’t pay attention to their children’s emotions, face, ability, wishes, etc. they usually teach or criticize their children by means of direct notification. For example, scold the children for watching TV for too long, turn off the TV by force, ask the children to go back to the room to study, etc.
The parents who adopt this kind of treatment should think that if they turn off the TV, they will turn off their children’s desire to watch TV. If they let them leave the TV and sit at their desks, they will go to study. If they are not motivated by their own will, they will not be able to study hard, not only that day, but also the next day. His desire to watch TV has been strengthened in his depression. His heart is full of contradictions and pain between watching and not watching – this is not to educate children, but to repeatedly damage his consciousness and self-confidence.
Please believe that the child is a seedling. The education of moistening things silently is most beneficial to him.
There was a positive nature of self-improvement in children. If a kind of “control” did not damage his personality and will, but helped him to adapt to some things better, he would develop his nature more healthily in this adaptation, and grow the power of “self-control” in his body – this is the source of children’s “sensible” and “conscious”.
Therefore, my “connivance” is just a kind of persuasion, which is also a kind of control. It is a kind of control that does not make children uncomfortable. Yuanyuan hasn’t been bothered by watching TV. There has never been a conflict between watching TV and children in my family.
In addition, it is also a good way to prevent children from suffering from TV addiction by cultivating their reading habits in early childhood. If a child likes reading when he is young, his intelligence will develop better, and he will find other interesting things more easily; at the same time, his thoughts will be more mature and more rational, he knows the priorities of things, and he will not be willing to let TV waste his time.
Some parents don’t agree with children’s reading when they are young. They think that children should live a light life and let them study too early. They should wait until they grow up to read. Generally speaking, parents with this idea don’t like reading and regard reading as a tiring thing. He didn’t know how easy it was for children to be tempted by books. A child whose mind began to stir showed ecstasy when holding a book, even more than watching TV. Whether children grow up in reading or in front of TV sets, the gap between intelligence and intelligence is huge.
In a word, children love watching TV when they are young, and they are easy to become “fools”! Parents need to be vigilant. It is necessary to guide them reasonably and correctly. Baibai safety net’s knowledge about children’s home electric shock prevention is still being updated. Please lock in our relevant columns!