After having a child, the time and arrangement of family life should take into account the needs of the child. After a hard day at home, in addition to doing housework, many parents are reluctant to accompany the child and turn him over to TV. My parents are very forced not to let their children watch TV. Is it feasible not to let them watch TV? Some experts tell parents to read: before the age of 3, children will benefit from watching TV. Is this true? Let’s study together.
Is it possible not to let children watch TV?
After talking with a mother about the disadvantages of watching TV, the mother said: “in the past, because the daughter in her first year old didn’t eat well, she turned on the TV to play cartoons when she ate, so that she could sit down and let people feed her. Now that I know the harm of watching TV and cartoons, I don’t think I can do it any more. ” I hope more and more moms will think about this problem.
As early as the 1960s, Dr. Benjamin Spock, author of Spock’s book of parenting, pointed out that “not watching TV at all is a logical solution. Without watching TV, children and their families can no longer rely on passive entertainment activities, but learn to creatively and actively develop their interests through reading, writing or talking with others, as human beings have done for thousands of years. “
Children benefit from not watching TV before the age of 3
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that children under 2 should not watch any TV. Dr. Arik Sigman, a British psychologist, believes that children under three should not watch TV and hopes that the government can make laws to enforce them.
As for the disadvantages of children’s watching TV, we have elaborated in detail. The main reason why children should not watch TV is that the rapid change of flickering TV surface is not conducive to the development of children’s brain nerves and vision, but also to the development of children’s sense organs and the cultivation of independent thinking. At the initial stage of growth, children must learn through contact with the real world and interaction with adults. It is better not to passively accept the information conveyed by TV.
In the modern society with highly developed information and ubiquitous electronic media, it is not easy to keep children away from TV, but it is necessary. The process of children’s growth is irreversible, and the first three years are the most important stage in life. Parents should have a warning in their hearts to remind themselves to pay attention at all times, so that children will benefit immensely. The behavior before 3 years old will lay the foundation for children’s behavior habits. If there is no love and dependence on TV in this stage, it will be very beneficial for children’s future learning and development.
Watching TV can’t replace reading
Some parents think that watching TV can let children learn knowledge, and good TV programs can replace reading.
Let’s first analyze why children like watching TV.
TV sets sound, light and shadow as a whole – constantly changing pictures, rich and bright colors, beautiful and funny sounds Of course, these stimuli are more attractive to children than books. However, just because TV provides all-round information, there is little space for people to imagine. Therefore, when children watch TV, it is a passive indoctrination, lacking of their own thinking and imagination.
This is also the main difference between watching cartoons and drawing books. When reading picture books, although every plot has a picture, children need to think about the changes and connections before and after through imagination, while when watching cartoons, they don’t need this link, because they are directly presented to children.
In the same way, tell the story to the child face to face or read it to the child, or read the book after the child has the reading ability. The child needs to give the image of each role in the story by himself, understand the plot and the connection between the front and the back. This process will make the child think and play his imagination to the maximum extent.
For children, reading is more boring than watching TV or watching cartoons. Children who have the chance to watch TV and cartoons will choose this kind of effortless form first. In the long run, the weight of reading will be less and less in his mind, and it will be difficult to form the habit of loving reading, which is very unfavorable for children’s future learning and development.
Don’t watch TV, children will not be confident in front of their friends?
First of all, children’s self-confidence comes from many aspects. If children don’t know what other people say about cartoons, they don’t have self-confidence. The root of this problem is from other aspects. It can’t be blamed that they don’t watch TV.
In kindergartens and schools, the most popular children are those who have strong social skills, know how to cooperate and communicate, can play a lot of games, and have new ideas and ideas. These are not what TV can teach children, but they are accumulated in daily life, in play and in communication with peers.
Just think about it. When your child’s time is mainly spent watching TV, while other children are running, playing, playing and exercising, whose potential is greater in the future? Many damages brought by TV are invisible to us in a short period of time. Even if we only watch half an hour of TV every day, if we can use this time on things that are more beneficial to children, in the long run, there will be something that cannot be ignored Influence, which is worth parents to work for.
What if the child is already addicted to watching TV?
A lot of good habits of children are developed in early childhood, especially before the age of 3. It is the best to keep children away from TV at the beginning.
What if a child has already enjoyed watching TV, has to watch it, or even has become fascinated by TV or cartoon? The most fundamental solution is to enrich the content of children’s life, expand the scope of children’s communication, make more fun things attract children, and transfer the attention of TV or cartoon.
Can we let the children watch TV for a limited time?
Some parents said, “after knowing the disadvantages of watching TV, I plan to accompany my children to watch TV for a limited time every day, such as half an hour every day.” This idea is very good, but how to do it is very difficult. By contrast, it’s easier to keep children away from the TV.
Children are very persistent in pursuing things they like. If the child is not satisfied with watching only half an hour of animation every day, it is difficult to ensure that the child does not watch unless the TV is locked when the parent is not at home or busy with other things. Moreover, even if there is a parent watching, the child may be only concerned about watching TV, not doing other things.
If parents are able to accompany their children to watch TV, it is better to devote their time and energy to helping their children live a more colorful and meaningful life. If you want to expand your child’s knowledge and vision by watching TV, you can read books and newspapers with him, go to museums and exhibition halls together, and go to nature for observation and exploration. Instead of letting your child know the ecological environment of the Amazon River Basin from TV, you can let him raise a small animal by himself and experience how the animal’s diet and habits are. Instead of letting his child learn from electricity It’s better for him to feel the beautiful world around him in nature.
What’s to replace TV and cartoons?
There are also more meaningful parent-child activities that can be used as an alternative to letting children watch TV and cartoons, including:
1. If the outdoor weather is good, make sure to let children go out for more activities, play with water and sand, run and jump.
2. Tell more stories to children and interact with them. If parents are busy, they can let their children read excellent picture books.
3. Let children Doodle and draw more; listen to music and sing and dance more.
4. Let children help their mother with housework, such as picking vegetables, washing handkerchiefs and sweeping the floor. Children will enjoy doing these things very much.
5. Do some family games, such as hand-made with children.
6. If parents have energy, take their children to visit museums, concerts, performances, etc.
7. Create more opportunities for children to play with other partners.
Finally, the safety net reminds: parents should not oppose emotionally and take extreme means of beating and scolding. Instead, they should quietly turn off the TV and let their children take any means to coerce, cheat and pretend to be pitiful. They need not compromise and show your attitude with silence and resolute action. If you have any questions about children’s home-based knowledge such as electric shock prevention, please continue to pay attention to Baibai safety net children’s electric shock prevention common sense column.