Nowadays, the topic that primary and secondary school students are infatuated with TV has become a puzzle for many parents. Children are one thing for you, which not only affects learning, but also delays growth. In fact, there are long-term benefits if we control children’s watching TV. Therefore, to avoid children addicted to TV, we should take care of children calmly!
Why does controlling children’s TV watching have long-term benefits?
In a word, the time of children’s exposure to TV should be reduced as much as possible. It costs a lot to keep children in touch with TV for a long time. The long-term effective method is to provide children with both the real situation of intellectual stimulation and the necessary tools for their own entertainment.
Children should interact with their surroundings when they study. If you want to develop your children’s intelligence, you should make puzzles with them, let them listen to you read aloud and answer all kinds of questions they ask. Don’t think you need to spend all your time playing with your children. As long as you interact with your children when you are dealing with daily work, you can provide them with many benefits that they can’t get from watching TV. When you are preparing to cook, ask your child to help you measure the number of rice cups, so that he can learn to count; teach your child to clean the kitchen floor, so as to develop his hand eye coordination ability; or increase his body flexibility by folding the washed clothes. Involve your children in your daily activities. They can learn life skills and share life experiences with you.
Children need to learn how to entertain themselves. The ability of self entertainment is very important to cultivate children’s independent spirit and self-reliance. Parents should teach children life-long skills to reduce boredom through self entertainment (see Chapter 6 for more details). Therefore, if you are faced with the difficult choice of giving up the free and convenient “electronic nanny” and trying to make your child interested in life in a more active and entertaining way (such as jigsaw, reading and playing outdoors), you will benefit your child all his life, give him more opportunities to keep fit, learn to entertain himself, and develop his curiosity and creativity.
Calm parenting to avoid TV addiction
Although it seems unlikely to turn off the TV, it’s not as hard as it sounds. As we can see, there are so many advantages to turning off the TV. So here’s how to avoid falling into TV and video traps:
1. Avoid exposing children under two to all videos
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that parents avoid watching any form of television for children under two years of age. Children of this age group need to interact directly with their families to develop cognitive abilities, rather than simply being exposed to TV programs passively. It’s not good to expose your baby to TV in any way, including videos like Little Einstein and Mozart. They can’t make your child a genius, but they have a negative effect.
2. Develop non media strategies to deal with boredom
Think of other ways to spend your child’s time so that they don’t fall into the trap of media programming when they complain that they are bored. It’s not as difficult as it seems. Picking up a few parenting magazines like parents and children can inspire you. They have new ideas about every problem, such as using a cupboard to hold what you want to throw away. Think back when you were a kid, there was no video, what kept you busy all day. You don’t need to spend a lot of time creating interesting projects for your children. My own “children’s cupboard” contains all kinds of art supplies (handmade mud and chalk, etc.), maze books, stickers, beads and foam. For young children, blowing bubbles and playing with hand-made mud are very attractive; for older children, it is very meaningful to arrange buttons, draw with crayons and build blocks. Of course, the kids have their own special hobbies. My oldest son likes baking (especially biscuits and chocolate cakes) better than watching TV. My youngest son’s first choice is to play hockey in the driveway.
3. Let your children experience the feeling of boredom
In today’s busy society, many of us are concerned about how to make our children have a happy mood and keep an active attitude. You may have heard that two to three year olds take part in many pre arranged activities every week, such as ballet, gymnastics, etc. Sometimes boredom is right, or even good. When my son is bored, he may dig a hole into the center of the earth, build a huge marble tower, or read a book. These are good ways to kill time because they force children to do creative, imaginative and independent work.
4. Read to your child
A long-term and stable method of parenting is to read to children, which will cultivate the intimate relationship between parents and children. It takes a lot of time and energy to read to children, especially when children grow up and like more and more books. It can be a very boring thing for readers, especially because children like to listen to the same book over and over again. My son had gone through that stage, and in that period of several weeks, all he asked for was to listen to George the curious monkey to the hospital, the mouse family and Sam and the firefly (I have to admit that for a while, I had to hide Sam and the firefly because I couldn’t stand reading it again). Reading can naturally stimulate and enhance children’s creativity, vocabulary and imagination, which is impossible for TV programs.
If you’re bored reading the same book over and over again, go to your local bookstore or library to find several new books. Even if your child is only interested in a few of his favorite books, he can adapt to new books after you refuse to read them for him several times. I found that the best way to choose a new book is to read the New York Times best children’s book guide, which lists more than 700 books for children of all ages and provides a summary of each book, so that you can choose books that meet your children’s interests and give them a sense of challenge. When my eldest son was four years old, I read a series of classic books for him, including Charlotte’s net, the little elf mouse and the cabin in the forest. He loves listening to these longer stories and expects to hear what happens to the characters in the story the next night. Reading longer books is good for preschool children to enhance their memory and vocabulary, so as to prepare for kindergarten and later learning (different from watching TV).
5. When you need a rest, hire a nanny
Sometimes we have to rely on “electronic nanny” because we need to answer the phone, cook and wash clothes. Another option, however, is to hire a helper in the afternoon to play with your child for an hour, so that you can have time to do what you have to do. For just a few dollars (the price of a cup of coffee), you can have an hour of undisturbed time, while your child can play with a high school student, his new friends can introduce new games for him to play, supervise his outdoor activities or play slides with him. If the finance doesn’t allow it, you can make similar deals with neighbors with young children.
6. Control the time and content of children watching TV
If you sometimes have to rely on TV or video for some reason, make a serious choice about the content of the program your child watches, when to watch it, and how long to watch it each time. Although there are no TV shows and videos that can benefit children in real interpersonal and independent development, it may be better to choose some media than not. In order to avoid children’s exposure to some advertising, language and social environment, we choose video or public TV programs rather than commercial TV programs. Video is also a good way to control the time of watching TV, because its length is limited, and commercial TV programs usually jump from one program to another quickly, which makes time control a challenge.
When your child is watching TV, you’d better try to watch it with him so that they can have an active social experience instead of a passive one. Sitting with your kids watching TV, you can answer their questions, and they get more experience than just sitting there watching TV. My family even had a weekend “movie night” when we all sat together to watch a g-movie. Before you show the video to children, you can preview it to make sure it is free of provocative language and behavior, scary or inappropriate images, and depictions of tobacco and alcohol.
Finally, try to choose vivid videos that can provide some information, rather than those that simply provide entertainment. My oldest son didn’t watch TV or video at all until he was five, when I bought a series of real life (non animated) and instructional videos. For example, the first video shows the whole process of building a house, the second video shows how to make food, and the third video shows the takeoff and landing of an airplane. These videos are designed specifically for children and do not include fast changing scenes, animations or other gimmicks. I also restricted him to watching one video every afternoon while his brother was sleeping (he was very dissatisfied).
7. Balance media and non media time
Since watching TV is a passive, non stimulating activity, you need to make sure to participate in it with a more active and entertaining attitude. For example, you can decide that when your child watches TV for more than 30 minutes, you should let him engage in other forms of activities, such as reading books, playing puzzles or playing basketball.
8. Let yourself not watch TV
Like all other behaviors, children imitate their parents. If you start watching CNN every morning when you come downstairs for breakfast, or watch sports all Saturday afternoon, your child will soon follow you as an example. My husband and I watch TV regularly (maybe we watch too much), but it’s only after our children go to bed (9 p.m. – midnight). We also put two TVs in our “adult space” instead of “children’s space”: one in our bedroom and the other in the living room instead of in the kitchen, entertainment room, family activity room or children’s bedroom.
Finally, real world communication can help children acquire family experience and promote the establishment of social awareness. A reading, a dialogue, a simple game, a handshake, maybe you don’t think the children have any consciousness, they don’t understand, but in these accumulated subtle exchanges, the children are slowly absorbing and growing up. &Nbsp; if you are interested in children’s home electric shock prevention knowledge, please go to this safety net to find relevant information.